to vote for favorites. Only 6 votes needed to get on the list.We have decided to have a child. The first step is figuring out how to make that happen. I don’t need the birds and bees talk, I get how it’s usually done. I had a vasectomy, so the question of having a baby isn’t straight forward.
I like the idea of adoption. It’s one of the reasons the vasectomy decision caused me little pause. Adoption is one of the possibilities we put on the list.
I held this naive notion that adoption would be easy. I figured some paperwork and a cheque would be all that was required to secure some cute hungry orphan from a far away land. The reality is more complex than that, which is a good thing, I suppose. Adoption from various countries around the world is possible, but the process is lengthy, uncertain, and expensive.
Given the proper perspective any issue has two sides. Take human trafficking for instance. Buying a baby sounds like a horrible, morally offensive absolute, until you want one, and have money. Then you can see good arguments for why that rule should have some flex in it. I’m joking of course, unless you’ve got a baby for sale.
Adopting a child from within Canada, removes some questions, but adds others. In Canada, children are in short supply, and the birth mother makes the ultimate decision about where her baby goes. Michelle and I feel confident that we will present ourselves as parents that someone will pick, but it is an imposing barrier to consider, and no timeframe can be established.
Having a child is a scary proposition. I underestimated the role biology plays in providing a sense of security. When you are considering jumping off that precipice, biology at least feels like something you can cling to. It is one less variable in a sea of lurking unknown.
Other factors are at work as well. My wife wants to be pregnant. No male can deny that feeling, and I empathize with the notion that if you are going to go through motherhood, you might as well try the whole process.
Adoption has not been removed from the list of options. We will consider it again as life dictates. Until then we are pursuing other avenues to fulfill our wish.
Of course the vasectomy seems like a rash decisions in retrospect, but I am not the first fool to change his mind. There are medical options to father a child after “the snip”. We make an appointment with a fertility specialist to see what they are.
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Jesus, how many times do I have to try sell you one of my kids?!
Kids depreciate 50% in the first year. What kind of a deal are you offering?