Comments on: An Infertility Love Letter

By: myinfertilitywoes

myinfertilitywoes — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 21:06:26 +0000

Thanks for commenting on my post this weekend. It was really helpful. I came back over to re-read some of your entries and thought I’d offer up in case you don’t have this resource, where you can find other men blogging: http://www.stirrup-queens.com/a-whole-lot-of-blogging-brought-to-you-sorted-and-filed/situation-room/

By: myinfertilitywoes

myinfertilitywoes — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:18:24 +0000

Thanks for sharing these thoughts. Geez-this is so me. Sometimes having a hard time hearing about others’ pregnanices. I don’t think that it’s that I’m not happy for them but that it makes my sadness exacerbated. BUT I want to change that and your post may help me. Thanks.

By: Kristeen

Kristeen — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 04:27:26 +0000

You’re not a dumb boy. You are amazing and I want to thank you so much for sharing this difficult journey with us. There has been more than one occassion this year when someone has told me they were scared to tell you and mich that they were pregnant and both times I said, “don’t worry, babies are wonderful and they will be happy for you”. I said that because you are both incredible people and I was confident in my advice.

By: Elisabeth

Elisabeth — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 20:46:21 +0000

My name is Elisabeth, and I am an infertility / repeated pregnancy loss “veteran”. I am completing a PhD in Counseling Psychology, and my dissertation is focused upon the impact of infertility on marriage. I believe strongly that there is a need for better support services for men and women who are undergoing IF diagnosis and treatment, and my hope is that this study will aid in the development of such services.

I am recruiting participants for my study, and wanted to invite you to take part.

Best,
Elisabeth

By: Alice

Alice — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 17:37:54 +0000

It’s true that life is not fair, but through all my years of ups and downs, I believe that life gives you what you need for the journey. Some hills are harder to climb than others, but if you hang in there and keep moving, you’ll get to where you need to go.
I love u both and believe there will be a good outcome to your struggle

By: Michelle

Michelle — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 01:33:43 +0000

I have also found people don’t know what to say – so they tell of their pregnancy and how many months it took them – it is not to shove it in your face – it is simply they are not sure what to say. I have found comfort in sharing the joy of a friend or family’s pregnancy – it makes me feel better that someone out there is not having to go through what we are. It is not fair to be angry at them – stop seeing them – or to refuse to be in the room with their child. They have/had the same goal as us – only succeeded and that is something to celebrate. I will always have that pang of ‘I wish it was me’ – but being angry does not help matters. Just remember, as hard as it is, not to blame yourself.