Comments on: Choices

By: Angie

Angie — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 15:42:40 +0000

I understand first hand the emotional stress of all the options to consider …. life is so much easier when they aren’t any options!! You and Michelle will know what is best for you. For many reasons, including financial, my husband and I have decided to proceed with adoption. I agree with all the comments above, especial Kristeen who states “The job you are working on is getting a baby”. I just wrote an article on my site regarding the financial aspect of considering IVF treatments. Suze Orman shares her opinion on Oprah… and ends by stating “if you were my friend, I’d ask you to consider adoption. It’s usually less costly—there are even tax breaks to help you out—and you run a better chance of reaching your ultimate goal: having a child to love”. Good luck to you and Michelle in your future decisions. I’m sure your decisions will have a happy ending, and a new beginning. All the best. Angie.

By: Kari

Kari — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:41:08 +0000

Lot’s of decesions…. I also agree with Ginger and Kristeen, but it’s easy to say when I’m not in your situation. I wish you all the luck with whatever you choose. I wish it could be easier for you.

By: Kristeen

Kristeen — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 20:06:55 +0000

I agree with Ginger. Pregnancy can be wonderful but it is also exhausting and unpredictable. Plus, it is a very small 9 month portion of a life long journey. My advice is to try to eliminate the options that are your long shots and your hail mary’s. Try to narrow it down to which one will give you the best odds of getting what you ultimately want (a baby, in case you were starting to forget!!). I know that sounds simple, but it might help to imagine it as a project and remove some of the emotion. The job you are working on is getting a baby, so what is your best chance of achieving that goal? Good luck – I don’t envy your salad bar.

By: Ginger

Ginger — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 16:36:49 +0000

Something to consider…
Which of those routes to having a child do you think would leave you in the very best emotional, physical and financial place? After all, the first year of parenting can be exhausting and overwhelming especially if you have a particularly high maintenance baby. The first year with each of my babies was a truly grueling experience that nearly did us in (don’t worry it was worth it and they were wonderful toddlers). It would have helped if I’d started that journey in great physical condition, well-rested, and emotionally at my best. So you might consider the option that will be the least difficult on you and your wife if that’s possible to predict.
And while being pregnant is an amazing experience it can be rife with complications and just plain terrible for some people.