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Your plans may bear no resemblance to real life. When faced with a discrepancy, it is you that must adjust. That’s an important life lesson, the good news is, we get many chances to learn it.
We received disappointing news. Our third round of In-Vitro Fertilization failed. The pregnancy test was negative. Fuck. Right? Right.
A positive result would be exciting and fill us with anticipation. It would be awesome. This is the opposite of that. This sucks. Life is often shades of grey; this is not one of those times, that’s my point.
Some take solace in labeling misfortune as fate, or God. Cosmic forces willfully conspiring against us having a child strikes me as the opposite of comforting. I take a simpler view; sometimes you get lucky, and sometimes you don’t. We are involved in an elaborate coin toss, and we are zero for three.
If we ever manage to have a kid I already know a little about what sort of father I will be. The first available opportunity will find me saying, “That’s right, life’s not fair. No point in crying about it. Get up and keep going.”
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Yeah, many times life is not fair. Sometimes the hardest thing is picking yourself up and to keep going. You are strong and you will get up and keep going because what choice do you have? Whatever forces there are in the universe that perhaps decide what path our life goes, don’t always follow our plans. I have to believe that life takes you where you need to go and things will turn out right.
I concur. Fuck. No other word will work. My niece or nephew will arrive into your lives someday, somehow, that is certain and no ones cares how it happens, we just hope for your sake, it’s sooner rather than later
Sorry to hear of this disappointing news. You are both in my thoughts.
Fuck is right. I too choose to believe that it is a coin toss. Because to believe that there is some sort of divine hand in all of this would really make me think that weirdo has a sick sense of humor.
Well shit. Or fuck. Either way, it sucks. I’m sorry for you guys. This whole process just bites. What will you do next? [Edit: Remainder of this comment moved to Universal Health Care]
Damnit! Fuck is right. I’m so sorry Dirk. This just is bullshit all around. I like your views on the elaborate coin toss although you’d think the odds would be flip to your favor about right now. ((hugs)) to you and your wife right now.
Oh Dirk, I am so sorry for you and Michelle. It is heartbreaking and crushing and dammit you’re right — it just isn’t fair. It is all so scary and the negative shakes you down to the core. I know that you’re taking great care of her, but give her as many extra hugs and love as you can, let her know that one is sent from me across the sound. Tell her to give you a hug back from me too.
Damn…. I am so sorry. And you are so right. My facebook entry today was “Now hear this: Life’s not fair”.
We are on the same sad page.