to vote for favorites. Only 6 votes needed to get on the list.We did some more IVF. It worked. And then it didn’t. I was done. My wife was not. We’re equally stubborn, but she’s significantly tougher than I am. We agreed to one last, all or nothing, Hail Mary. After that didn’t work she more easily adopted what had become my line of thinking, which was, “This part sucks. Let’s get to the part that doesn’t suck.” We are adopting.
The process has many steps. One of the first is a meeting with the woman who is completing our home study; the stamp of approval to proceed. She gave us a questionnaire to do. Family history, upbringing, that sort of thing. I flipped through it, and the first question I came upon was “How do you typically react when you have a disagreement?” It was a “check as many as apply” question. Lots of options. One of them was,
- Sometimes punch and break things
Who would check that box? It would have to be someone that not only does punch and break things when they disagree with their partner, with whom they are adopting a child, but also, they maintain an unwavering adherence to “honesty is the best policy”. I would think that question identifies a narrow margin of the population.
I showed my wife, “See baby. I told you. We’re golden.” I think we’re doing fine. She’s afraid of not getting picked. I don’t get that. I’ve told her, “I don’t get that. We’re awesome. We’ll totally get picked.”
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I should note, because I don’t want a Google search to affect this, that I’m not making fun of the process. It’s been interesting and positive. But it tickled my funny bone, and was a relief, to immediately find a question I could easily answer.
Um, heck yeah! You guys are totally awesome! I love you guys. You are going to make great parents. xo.
Thanks Robyn.
i have always known you’d make good parents even when you thought you didn’t want to be. I can’t wait until you get the good news that you have a child.