to vote for favorites. Only 6 votes needed to get on the list.When does The Plan stop being The Plan? We anticipate, create visions, project into the future, it’s a uniquely human curse. When The Plan fails to mesh with real life do you revise it, abandon it, or create a new one?
When we first started In Vitro Fertilization we secretly entertained notions of an easy home run. IVF overcame the vasectomy, which was the only hurdle we foresaw, and we’ve had excellent news at every step, except, of course, the final result. We have not decided if we will continue with the process.
Science provides other options. The doctor has suggested a surrogate, and to my great shock, we’ve had several volunteers. I’m still trying to get my head around the idea. It seems, extreme, and it involves other people in a process we’ve found to be stressful and highly emotional. No decisions here either.
The initial stage of the adoption process is a report that takes up to half a year to complete. We are going to get started on that in case it is what we decide to do. It’s always been our back-up plan.
The Plan still is. Same destination, different route.
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There are thousands of little babies now in Haiti that need loving parents
It doesn’t work that way Shannon. Inter-country adoptions are lengthy, expensive, complicated, and prone to changes in policy and procedures, and that’s when everything is going well. People who were already in the adoption process in Haiti are in limbo, and, frankly, I think you would have to be a glutton for punishment to think about trying now. The country is in chaos and whatever agencies and government help that were dedicated to adoption and child welfare clearly have other priorities now.
I am working on a post about adoption, but my thinking had been like yours at one point. I thought, well, they apparently don’t even want little girls in China, I’ll just get one of those. Unless you are Brad and Angelina it’s not that easy.