Comments on: Vasectomy http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/ an autobiography, in installments Sun, 29 Jan 2012 19:00:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: The Plan http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/comment-page-1/#comment-2362 The Plan Mon, 18 Jan 2010 18:42:12 +0000 http://mymindsink.com/?p=1933#comment-2362 [...] started In Vitro Fertilization we secretly entertained notions of an easy home run. IVF overcame the vasectomy, which was the only hurdle we foresaw, and we’ve had excellent news at every step, except, of [...] [...] started In Vitro Fertilization we secretly entertained notions of an easy home run. IVF overcame the vasectomy, which was the only hurdle we foresaw, and we’ve had excellent news at every step, except, of [...]

]]> By: Michelle Britton » Blog Archive » Out of Order http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/comment-page-1/#comment-2353 Michelle Britton » Blog Archive » Out of Order Wed, 16 Dec 2009 05:36:29 +0000 http://mymindsink.com/?p=1933#comment-2353 [...] have all read about Dirk’s experience with the vasectomy – so that is not an option – even the doctor agrees. Donor Sperm does not appeal to me, [...] [...] have all read about Dirk’s experience with the vasectomy – so that is not an option – even the doctor agrees. Donor Sperm does not appeal to me, [...]

]]> By: Gillian http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/comment-page-1/#comment-2319 Gillian Fri, 04 Dec 2009 07:17:42 +0000 http://mymindsink.com/?p=1933#comment-2319 What caused you to change your mind is a good question. It is/was something that I have been concerned about as I grow older and have also chosen not to have children. What would I do if I somehow got an overwhelming urge to have children after 20+ years of not wanting them? I have looked in myself repeatedly over the years to see if I am missing some biological sign and have never felt the need...but what if I did. It would be interesting to hear your 'why'. What caused you to change your mind is a good question. It is/was something that I have been concerned about as I grow older and have also chosen not to have children. What would I do if I somehow got an overwhelming urge to have children after 20+ years of not wanting them? I have looked in myself repeatedly over the years to see if I am missing some biological sign and have never felt the need…but what if I did. It would be interesting to hear your ‘why’.

]]> By: Dirk http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/comment-page-1/#comment-2309 Dirk Thu, 03 Dec 2009 19:43:11 +0000 http://mymindsink.com/?p=1933#comment-2309 All good questions Nina. I will try and answer them in a later post. All good questions Nina. I will try and answer them in a later post.

]]> By: Nina http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/comment-page-1/#comment-2303 Nina Thu, 03 Dec 2009 05:30:05 +0000 http://mymindsink.com/?p=1933#comment-2303 Good on you for sharing. Most people can't talk about a vasectomy, just like they can't talk about poo or death. When I tell people that my partner and I have decided not to have kids of our own, they say 'oh yeah, until it happens'...and i'm like really, you don't understand, we made a conscious choice in the matter...the look on their face when they hear that a young childless guy chose to have a vasectomy is quite fascinating. Your post made me wonder, though: -why did you change your mind (never really explained) -what is the draw to having genetic replicas of yourself? -what about adoption? Not like I'm suggesting you answer them here...but maybe just think about them. Society often doesn't contemplate these questions...we often just assume that biological children are the default choice. Why?? Doesn't this world have enough children as it is? Good on you for sharing. Most people can’t talk about a vasectomy, just like they can’t talk about poo or death. When I tell people that my partner and I have decided not to have kids of our own, they say ‘oh yeah, until it happens’…and i’m like really, you don’t understand, we made a conscious choice in the matter…the look on their face when they hear that a young childless guy chose to have a vasectomy is quite fascinating.

Your post made me wonder, though:

-why did you change your mind (never really explained)
-what is the draw to having genetic replicas of yourself?
-what about adoption?

Not like I’m suggesting you answer them here…but maybe just think about them. Society often doesn’t contemplate these questions…we often just assume that biological children are the default choice. Why?? Doesn’t this world have enough children as it is?

]]> By: Brit (FCL) http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/comment-page-1/#comment-2250 Brit (FCL) Sat, 28 Nov 2009 15:30:09 +0000 http://mymindsink.com/?p=1933#comment-2250 The rhythm method worked great for us! Of course, then we wound up being infertile :-) The rhythm method worked great for us! Of course, then we wound up being infertile :-)

]]> By: Shannon http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/comment-page-1/#comment-2102 Shannon Tue, 17 Nov 2009 17:56:33 +0000 http://mymindsink.com/?p=1933#comment-2102 Ok, yes Recommend was not the right word, but you didn't tell men to run screaming the other direction Ok, yes Recommend was not the right word, but you didn’t tell men to run screaming the other direction

]]> By: Valeria http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/comment-page-1/#comment-2090 Valeria Tue, 17 Nov 2009 02:45:20 +0000 http://mymindsink.com/?p=1933#comment-2090 Dirk, I just wanted to thank you on the great post that you shared with us. It is much appreciated. Dirk, I just wanted to thank you on the great post that you shared with us. It is much appreciated.

]]> By: Dirk http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/comment-page-1/#comment-2082 Dirk Mon, 16 Nov 2009 17:22:46 +0000 http://mymindsink.com/?p=1933#comment-2082 I think "recommend" is too strong a word, Shannon. I think “recommend” is too strong a word, Shannon.

]]> By: Shannon http://mymindsink.com/vasectomy/comment-page-1/#comment-2052 Shannon Fri, 13 Nov 2009 20:33:02 +0000 http://mymindsink.com/?p=1933#comment-2052 I'm glad even with the 2 mis adventures in the vasectomy area, you still recomend it. When that decision came up in our family after 3 children, and not wanting a 4th, my husbands response the first time was "no Fucking way". I didn't give him much grief, for 2 reasons. I have to hold his hand at the lab if he needs to give blood or he'll pass out. And secondly, I chose to have my tubes tied. Which, is a much bigger procedure, but I saw it only as an opportunity. An opportunity to leave my 3 children at home, go lay in a quiet bed, have a great nap for the day, and then get waited on for a couple more days. It seemed like the perfect plan to me. When you have 3 toddlers at home you will go to great lengths for a vacation. By the way, that procedure was very simple and easy. They go in laproscopicly (sp) and it's only sore for several days. I’m glad even with the 2 mis adventures in the vasectomy area, you still recomend it.
When that decision came up in our family after 3 children, and not wanting a 4th, my husbands response the first time was “no Fucking way”. I didn’t give him much grief, for 2 reasons. I have to hold his hand at the lab if he needs to give blood or he’ll pass out. And secondly, I chose to have my tubes tied. Which, is a much bigger procedure, but I saw it only as an opportunity. An opportunity to leave my 3 children at home, go lay in a quiet bed, have a great nap for the day, and then get waited on for a couple more days. It seemed like the perfect plan to me. When you have 3 toddlers at home you will go to great lengths for a vacation. By the way, that procedure was very simple and easy. They go in laproscopicly (sp) and it’s only sore for several days.

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